I’ve (29F) been seeing my “partner” (30M) for a year now. We’ve been sexually active from the beginning - the first date. He’s very into his career (done with college, just started at a new firm) at the moment and still has licensing exams to take. I am applying to graduate school this year. We have AMAZING sexual chemistry and when we’re together it feels like we’ve known each other our whole lives. He doesn’t want a relationship at the moment. I’m not sure that I do either (I just got out of a 6 year relationship before we started seeing each other). But the fact that he’s so definitive about not wanting a relationship even in the future (he’s mentioned not believing in monogamy) is confusing me. How can we connect on so many levels but he still not want to be with me? I feel rejected and sad that he doesn’t want a relationship or see a future with me. He calls what we have “having fun and enjoying ourselves.” Is this a newer dating thing where everything is kept casual? Is he just not that into me? Do you think he’s afraid that he’s a rebound?

I don’t get it because he acts into me. He talks to me everyday and is always wanting to hang out. I’m really confused and just need objective advice.