Hey everyone, I wanted to share an update and express my heartfelt thanks to all of you. The support, comments, and messages I’ve received have been incredible, and they’ve truly meant the world to me. I’m more confident than ever that I’ll find someone who sees me for who I really am—not just my disability.

In fact, something exciting happened recently—a reporter reached out about potentially writing an article on disability and dating! It feels amazing to see this conversation creating ripples and helping raise awareness about the unique challenges (and joys) of dating with a disability.

Would You Date Someone in a Wheelchair? All People Seem to Notice Is My Disability, and It Sucks

Have you ever been with someone with a disability, like a wheelchair user? If so, how was your experience? If not, would you consider it?

Hello Reddit community, I’m a 30-year-old guy navigating the world of dating while embracing the unique needs of being a wheelchair user due to cerebral palsy. Dating as a wheelchair user has its challenges, and it can feel like all people notice is the chair, rather than the person behind it.

As a straight male, I’ve found it tough to get people to swipe right on dating apps, and I’m curious—what’s the hesitation? I’d love to hear your honest thoughts and perspectives. Is it fear of the unknown? A lack of exposure? Or something else entirely?

A little about me: • I use a wheelchair for long distances but am fully independent in all aspects of my life. • Yes, I can still be intimate, and intimacy is very much part of who I am.

Ladies of Reddit, I’m especially interested in hearing your insights. Would you consider dating someone who uses a wheelchair? If you’ve had experience with this, how did it go? If you haven’t, what would encourage or discourage you from giving it a try?

My personal experience: I’ve sometimes hesitated to bring up my disability early on when meeting someone new. I worry it might overshadow the chance for them to get to know me as a person first. But I also know that my disability is part of who I am, and it’s not something I want to hide.

For those who’ve been in relationships with someone who uses a wheelchair—or any other mobility aid—how did you navigate intimacy, connection, and the day-to-day aspects of life together? What made it work?

This journey has had its ups and downs, but I’m determined to find that special someone who truly sees me. The positivity and understanding from this community have been uplifting, and I can’t thank you all enough for your kindness.

If you’re reading this and have thoughts, experiences, or advice to share, I’d love to hear from you. Your words make a difference—not just for me, but for everyone out there navigating similar challenges.

Thank you again for being part of this journey with me. I’m more confident than ever that the right connection is out there waiting.