Like maybe I'm supposed to have lower standards if I wanna see people casually to hookup, I could use some 2nd opinions. I've (26F) only went all the way with 5 people and I was seeing them all casually.

When talking to a guy casually, I'm only interested going further than making out if: 1) He's good about getting tested or at least gets one if I ask him to. 2) He's respectful. I want him to care about my pleasure too, and to meet up when I'm also in the mood to (not when it's only convenient for him, feels like they're just treating me like their life-sized sex toy at that point).

I don't like one night stands, I'm more into friends with benefits. I don't know if this is dramatic but the last guy I talked to casually was super desperate and thirsty and only messaged me at 2am when he was horny, but whenever I asked to drink or meet up, it would be "I'm tired". Whenever he would come over, it was always about his pleasure. I remember a little bit after I first met him, he was over at my place and wanted a blowjob.

It didn't help that he came off slightly "aggressive" about it by being like "suck my dick" or "get me hard" (it didn't come off like he was saying it politely), but I said no for other reasons. At one point during that evening, he got on top of me and he was like "suck on it" again. It came off weird so I never did anything past making out with him. I don't want to hookup with a guy like this. Are my standards for casual too high or something, or are they reasonable?