I posted here not too long ago looking for advice and while there were people being helpful I feel like their suggestions won't work for me or are too general. So here I am again asking for advice as I am lost on what to do.

Years ago I weighed nearly 300lbs and decided to lose weight, change my appearance and wardrobe for the specific purpose of being more physically attractive. After losing over 100lbs and changing my look, I'm still dateless and every attempt at romance has failed. I'm convinced that there is something about me or something that I'm doing wrong to be rejected by every woman I've ever asked out that has nothing to do with physical attraction.

Like many men my age, I (36m) have zero dating experience and any female friends I may have had throughout my life that I ended up having feelings for, none have ever reciprocated, and I ended up no longer being friends with them due to the dynamic change in our friendship and the awkwardness after.

I've been told repeatedly that all I need to do is go out and find activities and social circles that pertain to my hobbies and I will eventually find someone. The only issue is my hobbies are all male dominated, so going to meet-up or social gatherings tends to be 90% men, and most of the women there, in my experience, are there with their S.O. or are not looking to be asked out.

I've been told that I should under most circumstances not approach women in public, or where they work, and I shouldn't go find a new hobby or social activity simply for the purpose of finding someone to date.

I'm not trying to sound gloom and doom and I know im using generalizations but these are my experinces. I'm truly at a loss of what to do.