I’ve started noticing a pattern that makes me wonder: are some guys so lonely that they jump into relationships without really thinking about whether they want something long-term? As a 19-year-old, I’ve had a few relationships where things start off amazing.. they seem super attached, like they’re falling hard for me.. but after a few months, the energy shifts.

At first, I’ll show interest, be open, and genuinely care about them. It feels real, like we’re both on the same page. But after a while, they pull away, say they’re not ready for something serious, or admit they’re unsure about the relationship. Meanwhile, I’ve already fallen for them, and it’s hard not to feel hurt and confused.

It’s left me wondering if they were really into me or just the idea of having someone there. Did they fall for my personality, or was it just because I gave them attention when they were feeling lonely?

Now, I’m trying to figure out how to avoid this in the future. How do I know if someone is genuinely interested in me for who I am and not just because I’m filling some temporary void? Has anyone else dealt with this, and how do you make sure the next relationship is built on something real?