I’m “29m” my girlfriend is “26f” and we’ve been dating for about four months now. Literally the perfect one for me , or so I thought. She’s met my mom and family and just recently on Christmas. I met her mom and family and we’ve been going steady. we love everything about each other and constantly express it . We’ve already started saying the L word And we don’t like being away from each other or not talking to each other for long, especially her.

Today she was supposed to come over at 10:30 just to be with me and cuddle is what she wanted and then about 1030. She text me and says that she just went outside to check her car and then her tire is flat so I said OK being a good boyfriend hey I can still come put some air in your tire, it’s OK babe. I don’t mind and she said no I don’t wanna deal with it tonight I’ve a long day I’m just dealing with a lot I’ll just drive to the tire shop in the morning on a flat tire and I just was like no it’s OK I can come tonight or in the morning and put air babe and she said no, it’s OK I can just drive slow to the tire shop You don’t have to come. That in itself was already weird because why wouldn’t you want your boyfriend to come save you if you earlier said that she wanted to come be with me today we stay 10 mins away it’s not a inconvenience I’ve aired her tire before .

So OK I just said OK after that I asked hey what’s going on? Why is your day been so long And why are you feeling down all of a sudden and she says oh it’s because of my job. I’m just tired of working there and in my head I’m just like well. We’ve been texting all day and you haven’t said anything bad about it to this moment our whole vibe today has been great and light ? I’ve never heard her Say anything bad about her job ever only good things and we talk about literally everything so again weird thing number two just felt like a small excuse to not come over but whatever sure . I’m a dude I’ve been stood up I know when I’m getting lied too and I know how women who adore you act . I’m not insecure at all but when you know your persons routines and how they react and it switches up it raises your hairs .

last weird thing was out of nowhere She just stops texting me after I asked what is she doing ? Convo just drops . Mind you is 11 at night by this time. No good night Text no call to talk about was bothering her or nothing these things she always does . Like we were just having a great conversation right before hand ! We usually sleep on the phone so by then I’m just like yeah that’s it. I’m going over there to see what’s going on cause my intuition tells me something fishy going on and I don’t wanna be getting played I have feelings for her.

So I drive by her house to go and see if her tire was actually flat and see what was going on and I got out and looked. The tire was not flat or no where near . All four tire is fully aired so I’m like huh that’s first lie so then I look at the garage And the light is on and I can smell weed and I can hear her laughing and talking or something on her phone so I call her she doesn’t answer. I call again. She doesn’t answer. so i knock on the door and as soon as I knocked on the door, she calls me back n says oh baby I was in the bed asleep but I could literally hear her in the garage.

So i calmly ask her to come outside i confront her , because i seen some more things that led me to believe that maybe a guy could be in there so I told her like hey what’s up? Why you’re lying? What’s going on then she comes outside says no one’s there I can check and tries to gaslight me about her tire being flat points to 4 fully inflated tires and that she was literally in bed with her son sleep and I tell her like don’t play with me like I’m grown like I’m not a kid. We can all see that the car is not flat at all like she could literally drive across town on those tires just a bold face lie … it was just a bunch of lies to a person u love .. so then she finally admit that she lied and says it was because of her job and she just didn’t want to be bothered tonight and didn’t wana upset me. But if it was about the Job you had already texted me that but why need to lie also? I was just so upset because why would you lie about something so tiny not only did you lie, you continue to lie blatantly after being caught.

And then it’s like I’ve never heard anything drastically bad about her job and we know each other. It’s been four months. If something wrong, she tells me everything which leads me to not believe it’s not the job it’s something else . We literally had a great conversation alllllll day no mood drops or anything so for her to say that she loves me but tell a big fat lie . you don’t even tell me good night or call or apologize for not coming you don’t even tell me the truth ..

Literally so now I’m just questioning if she really loves me like to not answer my calls or my text while I’m outside hearing her howling laughing and then lie that she didn’t see the calls just scream red flag like I have something to be worried about because why lie about something so small and stupid if you love me and our communication is great just tell me I always tell her when I need space . It has to be something bigger and she just doesn’t wanna tell me yet I guess. She was apologizing and crying and said that she was embarrassed for lying and understood if I didn’t want to be with her anymore and I just told her I needed time to think because now I’m questioning everything I’m just so confused by this . What do you guys think? we were literally at our strongest part in our relationship we just earlier had a heart to heart about our progress so to go from that to lies I’m so confused

Disclaimer : I’m not insecure nor crazy or a stalker . I haven’t spoke to her since I left her outside . I’m just very guarded about my feelings and my gut just wouldn’t let it go away

TL;DR ; * boyfriend lost * Things were good * The hell ya lie for