I’m a 30-year-old single guy, and I’ve been reflecting on what I really want in a relationship. My previous relationships didn’t work out because the people I dated turned out to be quite different from how they seemed initially. That said, I’m open to dating someone exclusively; to spend time together, have fun, and genuinely enjoy life as a couple.

Here’s the thing: I have no interest in getting married or living with someone. I feel content with my life as it is right now. I value myself, family, friends, and free time, and I feel fulfilled. If I meet someone I truly connect with, that would be a beautiful addition to my life, but I don’t see it as a necessity.

To give you an idea of what I mean: I want a relationship that feels like high school dating. You spend time together, enjoy each other’s company, and then go back to your own space at the end of the day. I’d still be fully committed to that person and would want us to grow older together—but without living under the same roof or tying the knot.

I guess I’m wondering: Is this an unusual expectation? Am I being unrealistic for wanting this kind of relationship? Do others feel the same way? I’d love to hear different perspectives.