Hey all, 30m here looking to navigate some tricky feelings I've been having. It always seems like in my life I'm either completely alone, or incredibly popular in regards to dating. It always seems to be the case, and I'm trying to be a better communicator, and a better partner going forward. It's incredibly stressful, though. I've had failed relationships many times throughout my life due to conflicting personalities, or differing sexual interests. And at the moment I'm in a similar conflict with 3 women I've been talking to, who I all like to differing levels of personality and intimacy. To preface this, I am not in a relationship with any of them at the moment, and am around the first-date level.

I believe the proper thing to do is express my concerns that I am feeling out their personalities and finding out how compatible we are intimately, but I'm afraid of coming across as just wanting casual sex, which isn't the case, and also afraid of losing these people and being alone again. I hate being alone, and feel so cowardly for not wanting to face that feeling again. But I also know it isn't right nor fair to keep people "on the hook" as backups. I'm not sure if anyone has advice or if I just need to vent, but there it is. Open to all advice or experiences. Please be kind, as I'm really trying my best to be a good person and do the right thing.