I'm 22 (F) and I’m so frustrated with dating. I feel like I've tried every approach under the sun but nothing seems to work. I've attempted being my authentic self, thinking maybe that's what's been missing. I've also ventured into online dating, going on multiple back to back dates that ultimately led nowhere, other than the person ONLY wanting casual sex despite me being clear on my intentions before the date.

I've finished college, I have my own place, and my own car. I still can't seem to find meaningful connections. I’ve done the internal work. I've focused on self improvement, self love, and personal growth, but the dating aspect of my life is complete shit.

I need something genuine, something NOT casual. So much of that these days. Everybody I’ve met are either hurt from their past and are now dating with vengeance or hung up on an ex. It feels like I'm stuck in a never ending cycle of unfulfilling situationships.

I’ve tried hookups like a handful of times and nothing good came from that, I just felt like used trash at the end of the night. Men (not all) claim they don’t want an easy girl, but they also get bored and leave when I put a waiting period on sex. I’ve tried splitting the bill on multiple dates, still doesn’t work. I just don’t know what to do anymore and I feel like I’m running out of approach.

I “believe” I’m far from unattractive, but this has been making me question myself lately 😅

Am I the only one going through this? Is there something I'm missing? I feel like I've checked all the boxes, I'm confident (not self centered), independent, and have a lot to offer. So why does finding love seem so impossible?

(Please don’t tell me that I shouldn’t be looking for love yadda yadda yadda, I have taken breaks from dating and still nothing unless I actually put myself out there)