We are both 50. For context. She is divorced, mine is underway.

We have been kissing and holding hands, hugging, etc.

Tell me if I am going to far with this.

She has let me get handsy and stuff for a while now. Fully clothed. We are never at a place where we are truly alone. Her house usually has kids ( 17 to 21) . As does mine. I have not met her kids yet, but we talk about them in great detail.

Tonight I plan on taking her to dinner and then rent a nice hotel room right next to the place we are dining. This place is top notch. Not.a Super 8.

I want to play some music, do some.slow dancing and just see where it goes. She knows I have music and dancing planned. She does not know I rented a room . She really hasn't asked. She said quote "I'll go anywhere with you" and later she asks if I plan on "trapping" her (playful banter) but im concerned if she sees a hotel is her mind going right to "he's trying to sex me"?

Is this a bad idea? I don't want to shake her confidence in me at all. What my.plan was just to.do so.dancing, some petting and just see where it goes, but I am going to let her lead. But she has also told me she wants me to be more assertive.

Sorry for the rambling. Looking for advice.