Hey reddit, I (24M) have been struggling with an internal conflicts for a while. I apologise for being yet another voice saying the same things, but I need help with what to do.

I have been trying to find a serious relationship since I was 18; I've been told I'm mature for my age, and I've been seeking someone who isn't just looking for fun, but for genuine connection. I know that's difficult at my age, but it's what I want. Difficult, however, has made itself seem impossible.

I am someone who prioritizes honest, openess, and good communication, and I love putting effort into to people I care about, romantically or otherwise. This has gotten me in the door a few times, but never to anything romantic; people tend to confide in me and tell me their life story, but never see me as more than a friend.

My looks, I fear, may not help this. I thought I was pretty average looking, not attractive, but not ugly. I was apparently wrong. The most success I've had talking with people is on platforms that don't immediately show pictures, and I had lovely, fruitful conversations... until they see me. Now I'm 5'11", 140 lbs, white, glasses, and overall look kinda like a skinny nerd with an air of maturity (so I've been told). What confuses me more though is that I have been hit on and been called cute by gay men... so I'm confused. I'm unfortunately straight, so I couldn't pursue that.

I'd given up hope that I would find a partner a couple months ago, which has caused the constant rejections to be less painful, but it's still not fun, and I am still trying to find someone, but I am wondering if I should just stop trying all together. I've used dating apps since I was 18 to little affect except attracting asexuals (who are great people, but I'm just not asexual).

I've been told ad nauseum that there is someone out there for everyone and to not give up, but I have had nothing but constant pain from my search. Please advise, I'm not sure what to do.

P.S. yes I know I'm young, but that doesn't change my emotional turmoil. Franky, being this young is limiting, but at the same time I feel older than I am, and I've typically tried to date a few years older than myself.

Edit: spelling