Hello Reddit, I need some help.

I(24M) have been out and about in the dating market for some time, and am running into an issue I've never heard of before which is causing me to become lost, hurt, and confused.

I've tried dating a decent amount of times looking for a stable partner, having the usual young failures as people learn who they are, what they want, and how to say no to emotional manipulation, which is all well and good. The problem is coming afterwards.

I've spent probably far too long reflecting on who I am and what I want, to the point I know most of the larger stuff with confidence. As such, I've been looking for people that also know what they want and are emotionally stable and mature (hard at my age, but I usually look a few years older anyway). The problem I'm running into is that the only people that seem to find me attractive are asexual people. Admittedly, I'm also attracted to them for the most part, but I am not asexual in the slightest (I'm in fact submissive, which makes this even more difficult). I've been told time and time again, and have had a couple different relationships end with people saying I'm sincere/genuine/a good person, and that people are emotionally attracted to me, but not physically/sexually. I've yet to find someone that is both emotionally AND physically attracted to me.

I'm a pretty average guy from what I can tell: thin, active, glasses, white, brown hair and eyes. I know I'm not conventionally attractive, but I've never heard that I'm ugly. I can understand if I'm not "exciting", but this situation is really kicking me while I'm down. I feel absolutely awful, and I'm just not sure what to do. Am I doomed to be physically undesirable be anyone that has their life in order? Am I forced to become asexual so I can actually find a partner? I haven't heard of anyone else who's been dumped several times because the people they were dating turned out to not want physical contact.

I don't know if there is any advice that can be given outside of "tough luck, keep trying" or "you're still young, just wait", or if this is just a rant at this point, but I don't know how much more of this I can take. As such, I turn to the great collective of Reddit to see if anyone can offer even a small amount of wisdom.

Edit: spelling