So I 28M recently got a divorce to a young lady 24F we had know each other for years and when we met she was in hs and I was 20 so at the time we never really talked just Snapchat it wasn’t until she was in her 20s that we started talk a few months went by and in her 21st I asked her to be my gf. We were off and on a couple of times the third time we got back together was the last time because once we got together everything was going good but eventually her mom got sick with cancer. And once things started to decline with her health I already knew I wanted to marry 24f we’ve been dating for 2.5 years at this point but I was still scared and expressed that I always wanted to wait till I was 30 to get married idk that jus seems like the right age, but after thinking it over to myself and talking to some family I decided to go for it I pushed away my fears for love and we got married last year in August and I thought we were having a healthy relationship after her mom passed,
unfortunately 24f wasn’t doing as well as I thought we started having more arguments she was kind of a slob so I always had to pick up after her and I would complain and ask her and tell her to pick up after herself she always said “ok” but wasn’t doing it and we had dogs my only rule was to not let them on our new couch cause I didn’t want to ruin it she blatantly ignored that every time I brought it up and eventually gave in to the dogs eventually I took over all the chores of the house which I was fine with but she still didn’t seem happy. We also fought a lot about bill I payed most of them and she payed what she could. After a few months she wanted to have a big wedding celebration which I wanted as well but not as soon because we didn’t have lots of money but after a while of going back and forth we decided to just look around to get and idea we found a nice place for 30k everything included the whole works and at first it was to much and told 24f and the company no but they were still in contact and eventually got it lowered to 25k I still didn’t want to but she manipulated me into feeling bad so we got it and booked everything and after months of us paying she still isn’t happy I’m taking her out more and more buying her things I used to write letter to her but eventually got so burned out I was to tired to do much of anything she felt like I didn’t love her anymore which wasn’t true I was literally doing everything for her. The day before she decided to leave she told me “do you think I got married to young” and I kinda broke inside cause one of the conversations we had about being together given our age difference was that her being young and not experiencing life might change her mind down the road. She also said she felt like a prisoner even though she was allowed to do whatever she wanted or go wherever and I told her that and then she says she want to hangout with her friends and I said that’s fine but then she said she wants to be with her guy friends that’s when I was “oh this girl doesn’t want me anymore” and I was pretty much done the next day she said we have to talk and that she wanted to leave so I let her. I offer to do the divorce filing because she doesn’t know how to or have any money to. She gets her things out of my home and leaves we don’t really talk to each. After the 60day waiting period we had to go to court to make the divorce official. Our town had a Labor Day fair and she went it’s been a week since our divorce and she is already dating a new guy from her work I’m sure they were probably messing around behind my back but anyways yeah I’m sure they bonded over the fact that they both lost their moms at young age.

It just makes me mad and upset like everything was for nothing and she tells everyone that I wanted the divorce when she was the one rushing me to file so quickly fn w**** she tell everyone that I didn’t love her which isn’t true but if you ask me now I don’t have any nice words to say. I’m glad to put it behind me but it’s sucks.

There’s a lot that has happened these last couple years I could go on forever but I think these are the main points.