Hi all,

Just for a FYI I know I have anxious attachment and I have been working on it actively through therapy and other coping mechanisms.

I’ve been seeing this guy for about 2 weeks now and we have been on 3 dates. Texting is a hit or miss with him which is fine. I did however text him one evening around 11pm, the morning the next day just to say good morning and then I didn’t hear from him whole afternoon so I asked is everything okay. He called me around 4pm and said he was out all night with his friends and then worked from 11 till he called me.

This put me off because after not hearing from someone for 16 hours not even one text makes me feel like I’m being ghosted. We also had plans the next day and if I thought I got ghosted then I made plans with my friends. The reason I’m so offput too is that we use to text semi-consistently before. Like a good morning and how are you in the day. I understand that he went out with his friends but when he woke up and started working, not even a hey. He also did not let me know he was gunna be partying (I don’t expect this don’t worry).

I understand the arguement that people are busy BUT YA’LL when we hang out this man is on his phone consistently and texts back his friends and even answers his phone when his friends call him. I know his friends are his priority and same cause we know each other for like 2 weeks man. But at the same time, if you are seeing this girl in the beggining, wouldn’t a text not be too hard? When you go to the toilet? We are vibing and it is new, but at the same time that made me feel ghosted and I told him and he apologized.

Also his culture I saw from the online world really prioritizes his friends. So maybe I have to take this into account.

Is my feelings valid? Am I just cray cray? P.S. me and my ex were very consistent and good texters, so I’m not use to this. I’m working on my insecurities don’t worry.