i’ve been texting this guy that i met on bumble for a couple of weeks, and weve been connecting very well. so much so that we were in the process of planning a meetup of sorts. but yesterday he was talking about his ex and mentioned that she never really gave him affection, since they broke up due to her realizing that she’s a lesbian. and he said “that’s why i’m looking for intimacy without commitment. also if i were in a relationship, i’d want it to be open.”

i have done poly in the past, and it really didnt go so well for me. and also im very not keen on casual sex. so i told him that we are looking for different things, so i’d rather just be friends. i was really disappointed and felt like i was led on, since it was pretty clear what i was looking for and he never said anything before.

but he keeps saying that he would still consider a relationship with me, that he can make compromises and he doesnt even know what an open relationship would look like for him, how much he’s bonded with me, that he doesnt mind being friends but he would still have a crush on me, etc etc… he keeps subtly fighting back on my statements about us remaining friends.

im just confused i guess? hes sending all these mixed signals and idk what he wants from me. can someone who speaks guy tell me what is going on? lol