I (28F) have been talking to *J* (27M) for about two months now. He lives about 6 hours away from me but according to him that wasn't a big deal and he would make it a point to see me. He had a lot of affectionate energy in the beginning. I asked him about coming to see me on the 4th of July and he said he would ask his boss about having off the extra day to come down. Time passes by and he says nothing about it so I ask him his plans for the 4th and he tells me he's going to his friends house (this isn't the first time he mentioned this friend and going there so I didn't think much of it). However, I was upset that he got the day off and didn't communicate to me that he would rather see his friend which I honestly would have understood because its a far ass drive on a holiday weekend. I finally asked him on the fourth if he ended up getting the extra day and he said yes. I mentioned I was hoping I was going to get to see him but I hope he was having fun anyway and another text after that . He ignored the wanting to see him text and responded to the rest which I noticed he started avoiding things he didn't want to answer.

This Saturday I asked what he was up to and he told me again he was going to his friends place and I asked "when are you coming to see me 👀" and he said "good question, when I get some vacation time I can". Which again, fair and I get it lol. He asked what I had going on that night and just told him it was girls night and asked if he'd help me pick out my outfit and he said sure and told me he hoped I would have fun. Never sent the outfit pics because he never texted me back, sent his a spicy drunk pic and text around 2 am when I got home which isn't new or out of the blue and no answer ...

He's been a "good morning" every morning for the last 2 months so to not hear from him is a little weird. I know work has been stressful for him so I'm truing to give him the benefit of the doubt. My therapist thinks I should text him tomorrow and essentially say how I'm feeling and basically just ask him to lmk if this isn't the route he wants to go with me anymore but idk, I feel like that can make me look desperate lol. Thoughts ??