I joined hinge about a month ago. Im a single woman. I new this guy when we’re teenagers. We are both 30. And was racist in the past and super snob. I wasn’t okay with what he said but yet he liked me. I blocked him on my social media and years later he found me on hinge. Because he had his friend send me messages during that time in the past. I didn’t match with him.

12 years later I guess he spotted me on hinge. He sent my sister a message on Facebook, “ hey can you give me your sister’s number. I really need to talk to her. Even if we can’t be together, I want to be her friend.” And my sister had the nerve to tell me “oh poor guy, let me give him your number.” I said no! I don’t want contact with him he made me feel uncomfortable with his racist remarks. And obsessive behavior. And I already paused my hinge profile and hid it. It creeped me out.

Now his sister messaged me on my social media, “hey this is … sister. You know my brother always liked you. And would like to keep in touch with you. He said he really misses you. Please give him a chance.”

I feel uncomfortable. I haven’t replied but I just want my peace. I’ll never forget what he said to me “my father doesn’t like people like you, but I like you.”. He’s a rich privileged man. And I bet his looking me up and I feel creeped out.

And I’m hurt at my sister. Shouldn’t a good sister try to protect me. Given my past. I was exposed on a recent vacation with her, had a stalker in the past- police were involved and other dudes who would become possessive. Haven’t had the best of luck with men it seems. I’m afraid a bit and don’t like when they become like this. I’m sweet and have good intentions.

Please any advice. I think im the most hurt by my sister to be honest and she had the nerve to tell me “im so lucky with my husband. I got a prince and you’re on hinge looking desperate . “