I 33m am not the best looking guy around but im working on that by getting in shape, have just deleted all dating app accounts. For 3 reasons, 1: im just over the endless talking stages, ghosting, ignored for week/s. 2: i feel like traditional roles have just gone, i was born in the wrong generation. 3: cant seem to find a woman who agrees with what im aiming for.

As a younger man i went and partied, adventured and enjoyed life in general. The older i get my goal and look on life is changing.

I had a woman (f36) recently tell me on about the 2nd date that she wanted to go on adventures/travel with me every weekend so she could see what our life would be like together. This didn’t sit well with me or my outlook on life. But she isn’t the only woman to say something similar to me.

My goal/outlook on life now is to set myself up and provide for my wife and kids if that should happen. I own my home, every spare dollar i have goes into that (nice garden, nice home). And that is only after i put every dollar i don’t need to eat or live into investments, i want to set myself up so that my wife and kids don’t have to worry about money, so my kids can have the best life they deserve. Obviously all imaginary wife and kids. But concerts, adventures, expensive dinners every weekend don’t fit into my budget atm.

Am i strange for thinking this way? Or am i wrong for thinking this way?