Started to see a guy (m45) in Jan. I brushed the relationship off as f*ck buddy (FB) pretty quickly. And I was very happy. It allowed me to focus on dating with out a desire to speed things. At the end of Feb his picture got posted on a bulletin board indicating that he was sleeping with another women (both of us were having in protected sex which really pissed me off) and she indicated she had feelings for him. I confronted him, told him adults don’t have FB relationships with no protection if they are sleeping with other people. He said he didn’t know he was a FB, and he had feelings for me. He had broken it off with her.

I tend to stay friends with people, and we started talking every night. 4, 5, even 6 hours one night. Nothing sexual. He did tell me he had slept with her again. But when I asked what that meant, he said he didnt know. (I immediately got STI testing, full results took a week, he had gotten tested in the middle and came back negative, but between her finding out and sleeping with him again, there is no way she got tests back, so I doubt she tested. so irresponsible)

i finally agreed to go out with him again, figuring, we talk every night, we chat all day. He has sincere interest. I am only in a place for a casual relationship. Meaning I cant see someone all the time, Im not always going to be a 1. But it might eventually get there.

i should add, our chemistry is off the charts. not only do I think so, he has has said so.

We went out last night. We were having an amazing time, and planned to rekindle our chemistry. Until i asked if he was still sleeping with her. And he is. so I stopped.

i had lost interest in the person i had been seeing. my emotional connection to him is high. but at this point I'm likely just getting led on as a just incase. which is weird. since we spend so much time talking. He said hes more emotionally connected to me, but if you like the sex with me more, and like me more, why continue with her? unless she is more available. either way? im cutting myself out of an opportunity to meet someone who will be monogamous.

AITA for going no contact ?