I (F44) met a man (M45) on tinder. Leading up to date was a ton of sexual talk so I had brushed him off as hook-up only. Nice enough, no long term commitment material. Honestly, in my life I am super busy and don’t have a ton of time for a relationship.

S3x was amazing. Some of the best I’ve ever had. I was making time to see him. And it was low commitment. I didn’t have to text all day, at night we would spicy video chat. It was phenomenal. I had made a connection with someone else and gone on a few dates, but the F-B was allowing me to take it slow with other guy.

Enter finding F-B’s picture on “are we dating same guy” board. Girl who posts says she was seriously dating him, she just found out he was sleeping with us at the same time. He broke it off with her. She wants other girl (me) to know.

I bring it up, break it off, go get STI testing (all negative). He apologizes profusely, says he didn’t know he was a F-B that he has feelings for me, but is hoping we can at least be friends. I tend to be friends with all my exes (F-Bs and relationships) we have been talking every night (not sexually) for 3 weeks. I now sadly like him.

He has told me he is still sleeping with her, which I do think is a jerk move, because I don’t think he likes her and she likes him. But who am I to judge. Other than? She never got STI testing. He did (negative)

I can’t juggle emotions. Meaning while I could juggle a F-B and someone I liked, I can’t catch feelings for 2 people. So I’m stuck in this boat of liking him, him liking me, and knowing that I won’t sleep with him while he’s sleeping with other people because it seems to me her health conscious is not there.

This is more venting. I feel stupid and frustrated. What would you do?