I have been seeing a guy for a little while now and I recently found out he’s married, obviously I’m not going to keep seeing him but I don’t know how I should handle the situation.

For context I’m in college and he’s quite a bit older than me and working. We met and started going on some dates he would always pick me up and take me out sometimes get hotel rooms and drop me off after. I never saw his home and he promised me he wasn’t married just that he wasn’t ready for that step yet. I figured maybe it’s just new relationship and he wanted to take it slow and not throw me into his life that quick but after awhile it just seemed a little off.

I started digging around on social media and found out he had a daughter around my age. Obviously I was shocked since he never mentioned that to me and made the whole situation of him dating someone like his daughter weird but from her socials I also found his wife’s and saw they are still married.

I’m feeling super betrayed and used and I want to scream at him for doing this to me. I’m also conflicted if I should tell his wife or daughter… I think I would want to know if it was me but I don’t want to break up a family or have someone be mad or blame me.

I don’t know how to handle going forward with this and I don’t want all the emotions of the moment to lead me to making a decision I’ll regret later.