I don't know what it is about most women I meet, but most seem to only be interested in sex or having a sense of safety and support. For me this often makes relationships feel one sided as I feel like I am giving more than I feel it's worth.

I don't want to change who I am, as naturally I am a fun, supportive, open minded, and curious individual. Unfortunately I cant find any women who seem interested or capable of being able to grow with my curious side and I don't want to feel alone or like I am leading someone or doing all the mental work in a relationship.

I also struggle to find people both men and women who are interested in having fun or doing things unless they are led or given instruction, and that is more frustrating than anything else.

So I guess my main question is, how can I adjust my search or way of looking to find or attract the attention of more independent or growth oriented individuals without having to talk to and be disappointed by everyone I talk to.

I want to make things more efficient, as talking to everyone and feeling off put by them is exhausting.

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Feel free to ask any questions if it will help you better answer my question, as this is a serious question.