For context I tried a new dating app, I made a profile middle of last month. I already deleted it last week. The longest I’ve ever been on an app tbh.

I usually try to avoid dating apps. I feel like every time I try to get excited about someone it ALWAYS fails. I can’t even be happy to start chatting with someone or be optimistic because I’m either going to get ghosted or they just waste time and then flake.

For context, I am a model, and not that looks are everything, but I do get attention when I’m out and about. It’s probably because I’m a tall girl, but I’m fit and take care of myself etc, so I’m not hurting for guys or attention, it’s the extreme lack of quality of guys who actually make me a priority and want to try for something consistent with me. It is extremely lacking and it makes me so incredibly sad.

My main non-negotiable for me to even want to date someone or even casually hookup is regular consistent communication. I feel like through HS and college and even a few years post college, I have never struggled THIS much with guys being horribly irregular texters/communicators.

it’s to the point where literally everyone I’ve talked to recently will not message or talk to me before or even in between dates. Multiple situations where guys plan dates for a weekend. Meanwhile it’s a Monday and we just don’t speak the entire week until the date?? I find that so strange. What I think is worse is when after the first date, they say they want to see me again, then want to plan the next date for the NEXT weekend. So again, another 5-6 days of not speaking until the next date. I do not understand this. Or when you can tell that every other thing they want to do is more important than t trying to set aside a time for a date with you. It’s been basically a “I’ll let you know if don’t go out with my friends” or “don’t go to the gym” as though I’m a constant after thought. like dude, we all have routines but if it were actually interested, you can’t set aside one evening for a date?

Maybe I’m just more selective so I have no issue finding an evening to go on a date with someone because it’s not about quantity for me.

(This has also happened a couple of times with casual situations and I’ve realized I just can’t do that. I won’t want to hook up again if we are not talking at all in between seeing each other)

We’re in an age where people spend ALL DAY on their phone, and the fact that the convos are so spotty is such a turn off for me. I am busy, everyone is a busy, but that’s an excuse, because when a man wants to communicate with you, he will.

I guess I’m just wondering how others feel about today’s communication. So much access yet people take days to respond. I don’t get it. I feel like I can’t form a connection with anyone at all because of the horrible communication. It has been so long since I’ve dated anyone that wanted to regularly text/call.

help :(