Ive dated some guys who i will lump into a group because of similiarities.

The similarities are this:

Initial lovebombing Saying very romantic things, romantic gestures, lots of attention and messaging before dating

Initial dates Wants to advance very quickly (tho that could apply to many guys cos they are just horny anyway, but avoidants are more into sexual and physical connection because its the least triggering form of intimacy for them)

*Drops off attention quickly once they establish you are in a relationship with them or love them Starts treating u like a random friend or dude kind of, sporadic texting etc.

*Probably dumping u soon when you seem to want to be with them on a long term basis They want to control the intimacy, like choosing how much and when, because either they are DA and intimacy triggers them, or a narcissist that only cares about his own needs, and sometimes its both.

*Post breakup Wants to "check you are ok" but this is like 3 weeks after ignoring your text. Or "wished u the best" but quickly wants to move on and forget u existed cos they tired of u. Start thinking of u months or years later, some even try to contact. Others just try to stalk social media, and have probably blocked u before and will now unblock