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I M27 matched with this girl F28 on Hinge about 2 weeks ago. We exchanged 1 or 2 messages and then she didn’t respond (which is usually how it goes most of the time on dating apps). Then 3 days later I’m at Target with my friends getting some things for my friends bachelor party when I see this beautiful girl walk by me with her friend. We made eye contact and smiled at each other. I saw that she was leaving and I was too late to catch up to her to try and talk to her (being on crutches recovering from achilles injury didn’t help). Then a few minutes later I get a message from her on Hinge saying “OMG was that you in Target?” And then I realized it was her. It was honestly one of the craziest coincidences ever. So we start talking about how crazy that was and then I proceed to ask for her number and…she doesn’t respond. So then I assume again that she isn’t interested.
Then, 4 days later I get a message from her on Hinge saying “Hey!!”. So then we start messaging and we talked for like 2 hours straight and she is replying within 2-3 minutes each time so I’m thinking this is going really well. I proceed to ask her if she wants to meet me at the same Target we saw each other at (I had to get some things and I thought it would be an easy way to break the ice). After I ask she doesn’t respond and now I’m thinking Ok this is now the third time where I’ve asked for her number or in this case invited her somewhere and she has basically ghosted me temporarily I guess. So I go to bed thinking AGAIN she is not interested.
I wake up the next morning to a message from her saying “OMG I didn’t see this!”. And I’m thinking “uh huh sure”, but then she asks me if I ended up going to Target and I said “I’m not going without you”, to that she said “OMG text me lol” and then gives me her number…at this point I am extremely confused tbh. But I text her and we actually make plans to meet that day at Target. We should have met earlier in the day but she didn’t respond for like an hour and then she realized that she never sent the message of the the address of the Target.
So we end up meeting at Target and she is a very bubbly person but very pleasant. She tells me she has ADHD and that she is just a very bad texter and forgets to respond all the time. Like 5 min into talking while walking the aisles I say “Damn we look really good together, people probably think we are a cute couple”. To my surprise she says “Yeah we do, you should just hold my hand”. And I’m thinking “say less” 😂. So we walk around Target holding hands the entire time like a couple for about 20 minutes while she helps me pick out some deodorant and shampoo. After I pay for the stuff I ask her is she is hungry and she said yes so I took her to the Cheesecake Factory next door. We were there for about an hour and half getting to know each other and I had a really great time. We jokingly agreed to be boyfriend and girlfriend and even shook on it which was funny. When we were done eating I walked her back to her car while holding her hand the entire time and said goodbye and jokingly said that we should “take it slow but fast at the same time because that seems to be what we are doing”.
On the date I got her Instagram and TikTok. She sent me some videos and I sent her some too. I told her I was going to a wedding and said she wanted to see some pics and when I sent them she responded with 😍😍 which made me feel good and a feeling I have never really felt before. The past two days however she had not been messaging me back. I called her yesterday and she answered and we spoke for about 3 min before her shift. I told her that I just wanted to see how she was doing and that “you could even say that I miss you”, she appreciated that. On the date she told me that she doesn’t get her schedule until the day before the week starts so I told her to tell me her schedule so that we can plan something. She told me she would. Today I have not her heard from her at all.
I can tend to be an over thinker. Am I worrying too much that she just might not be into me? Is it possible for people to be this bad at texting? She says that she is the worlds worst texter. I would just like some analysis/advice on this situation.
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