I'm coming to the realisation that the people I like don't tend to find me to be an option when it comes to dating. if it was a Venn diagram it feels like two separate circles. whenever I've paid for my bee line on bumble it's so damn disappointing.

I completely get that I'm not everyone's taste. I'm a mixed heritage black British 26F. skin head, tattoos and piercings. round soft facial features. plus size. glasses wearing. okay to look at I guess. essentially the antithesis of western beauty standards. confident yet dorky. [me]

on dating apps coming across someone I like in itself is a rarity. I am going to try and meet people in real life but I've only started coming out of my shell socially this year due to low self esteem and social anxiety.

I'm on dating apps but find it very difficult to find anyone I'm attracted to. like at all. it feels like everyone is clapped. but of course they could grow on me if I got to know them but I feel like there should at least be some level of attraction. plus I don't feel like I have time to date people in the hope that attraction comes along.

I also feel like there's a range of attraction I have, it's not very strict. not just "hot". handsome to cute to nerdy is cool with me. and in terms of celebrities I fancy they don't all fall into a type it's a huge range. [I don't tend to like blonds though except Austin Butler & Alexander Skarsgård. I love James Norton, Stormzy, Dev Patel, Finn Wittrock, Eddie Redmayne, Cillian Murphy, Quentin Plair, Nicholas Braun, Callum Turner, Tom Hughes, Andrew Garfield, Alex Turner]. maybe an overarching theme is a strong jaw & minimal facial hair.

my types aren't too far fetched I don't think. my main thing is liking their face. don't really care about the neck down body wise. I've liked buff, skinny & overweight. not a fan of too muscular though. I don't know if it's partly because my ex was so handsome and the first person I was with and that's set a standard for me. objectively all my friends say he was hot no matter their tastes. so I wonder if it's heightened my expectations.

then there is the issue of wanting a tall bloke as I'm 5'11 but I'm not completely against dating someone shorter but it's a preference that they're taller. so my dating pool shrinks.

when it comes to particulars I also don't care about level of education or want them to have a particular kind of job or money. I just want them to be employed. bonus if they like what they are doing. compatibility and chemistry is absolutely essential. I want to click with someone.