To make a long story short, dated this girl for about a year and a half. I saw alot of red flags in the beginning, started trying to prove that i was a great guy for her. Plus she kept promising to not do things that she ultimately kept doing.

Fast forward to two months ago, i move 1500 miles away for a new job that paid really well, I tried flying her out and she always had an excuse for why she couldn’t come for a specific weekend.

She begged me to open to her more and be vulnerable with her because she felt like i was too closed off, and then i did. I broke down and cried to her about something personal. About a week later, She was being rude and ignored me for two full weeks for no reason whatsoever. Wouldnt even answer my texts. I texted her “ Good morning my beautiful girlfriend who i cant wait to marry” and her response was “ someone is in a good mood” and then proceeded to ignore me. A few days before she began ignoring me she asked me to buy her an early birthday gift which ended up being 270 worth of clothes. So i asked her if she could get me a ticket to my fav football team’s game for my birthday, thats when she started to ignore me (my birthday is 3 days after hers). She blocked me on IG as well. 2 weeks later I finally texted her and asked “ are we done? “ because she still had me blocked on instagram and hadnt texted me at all.

She says “yes, im not gonna waste your time anymore”

So i blocked her and promised myself to never unblock her for any reason.

Since that day, July 20th ive been so relieved. Its been like a huge weight lifted from my shoulders. I love my job, im getting paid well, im beginning to get my confidence back in terms of seeing and being around other women, im being consistent in the gym. Its just all around been a 180 for me in such a short amount of time.

I posted a picture on instagram and she liked it even though she had me blocked, immediately i thought of blocking her but then u realized she wanted a reaction out of me, she probably wanted to see me block her because then that would feed her ego knowing she still makes me emotional. So i simply ignored it.

Ive had days where i wanted to unblock her just because i wanted to see if she’d text me but every single time i talked myself out of doing it. And i reminded myself that nothing she has to say can excuse the way she treated me. I don’t want an apology, i dont want to hear from her, and I don’t want closure.

When i am ready to fully forgive and let go of the situation, i will and it will take time, but i have taken the power away from her. Thats the most important part.

I say all this to say the road to recovering from heart break is rough, but discipline will always allow you to advance.

If any of you are dealing with a similar situation and find yourself struggling to let go, this is a reminder that you have to take control. You are in the situation most likely because you allowed the toxic partner to dictate the direction of the relationship, youve allowed them to have a puppet-master like control over your emotions and you most likely put the ball in their court and give them the chance to “ make things right”

That ends now. Like i said, wanting on an apology from someone who’s wronged you, wanting closure or wanting to know if they still care is setting yourself up for more pain.

The best thing you can do is be as close to dead to them as you can without actually dying. They dont know where you are, what youre up to , who youre seeing, if youre happy, nothing. And forgive them when youre ready. They dont need to know theyve even been forgiven. Thats between you and whatever god you believe in.

I hope someone who needs to see this does. You guys take care.