You know I am overthinking when I come to reddit for advice but honestly it wouldn't hurt you seem like nice people..mostly anyways. I apologize for any spelling errors and how this blob of text will be everywhere. Its 2am I'm tired and I'm sad so again sorry

I have been back in the dating pool for a while and I have no issues getting dates. I expect and accept that some matches I just will never see them for one reason or another. Now I always suggest a fun activity and not always dinner and make sure to pay. Its how I was raised and honestly I dont mind. I dont expect anything in return long as we have fun. Most times we do. I have even ended up kissing a few of them at the end of the first date which is awesome.

Now what seems to be my issue is keeping them around and I'm starting to wonder if maybe its me? Is kissing on the first date wrong? Should I be more mysterious?

Now some I have told them I didn't feel a connection and some have said the same thing (again to be expected we are humans with needs sometimes they dont match.) However I am starting to worry. I have always acted myself and had really fun convos and I thought with all the signs especially with the girls I kissed it was a positive second date in the forecast. As of right now I have went on 15 first dates and only 2 that I was interested we went on a second date. A third date is a like a myth to me currently. I like to think I'm good looking. I just went on a date tonight and felt a good connection but no reply yet and my overthinking brain has shifted into *Maximum Overdrive* for context of who I am without a photo because some of yall are secret FBI agents I am a 5'11 black male with a slim figure dark brown eyes and curly black hair. Basically I am just looking for help or maybe to calm down my anxiety because I am really feeling like I am doing some sort of error. Or just a text saying it happens and you will find someone. I really appreciate you taking the time out of your day to read this and let alone respond.