I’ve reached a point in my life where I would like to meet someone for companionship. I’m 37, reached a great place in my career and I’m now in a space where I’m comfortable with my workload and able to focus on other parts of my life.

I’ve never wanted to get married or have kids (nothing against it at all, love being the aunt just very aware of the level of commitment needed to be a wife or mother and I don’t want to do it) I’ve had light relationships in the past but I now want to find someone for a deeper relationship.

Since August last year I’ve joined a few dating apps, tried Reddit R4R but it just all feels overwhelming. Too many people and too many messages. I feel like I then have to reply to everyone, end up getting overwhelmed and then just stop replying to everyone or close my account entirely. Thought maybe face to face would be better so my friend and I went to a few singles night in west London. Probably spoke to 30/40 guys, swapped numbers with 3 of them but again just overwhelmed with messages and I end up avoiding any message app so I don’t have to reply.

Am I meant to be able to juggle all messages and apps? It feels more draining then my day job. Any tips etc would be amazing.