Toward the end of college I met this girl and we had an amazing but brief fling. We went our own ways for grad school but ended up working in the same city after. When she finished school I messaged her that I couldn’t stop thinking about her and really wanted to see her again. She said she felt similarly and we spent most of last summer having a great time together.

Toward the end of summer she had a family member take a downturn in their health and as she was getting therapy at the time she said she needed to be alone while she worked on herself. I was sad but understood, and I asked her to just promise me she’d reach out if and when she feels ready.

This morning I was missing her a lot so I reached out to ask if she might be ready again. She said that while she’s feeling better she’s seeing someone now. That news made me want to throw up.

I know logically that I should move on in this scenario but I’ve never felt remotely as close to someone as I did when I was with her. I’m just torn up that she never reached out.

I suppose I’m just looking for some support or advice on how to minimize how painful this is