I’ve consistently been mistreated and hurt by past relationships and it’s made me always think the worst of a completely normal situation. If I hear my girlfriends phone ding at night I’ve literally gotten up to check it and been caught doing it, when asked I had been honest and explained my fears and why I reacted that way. It was understood and forgiven. But these thoughts still remain after three almost four years of an absolutely perfect relationship. When we met we just fit each other in such a “fairy tale” or movie screen type of way. Every aspect of each other was as if it was designed for the other person, cuddling is so amazing because our bodies feel like they fit together like puzzle pieces, our hearts are in absolute harmony like a perfectly designed engine running at its best, and our minds are connected on an unimaginably intense level that we can accomplish tasks the other hasn’t even expressed desire for yet. She’s genuinely the one for me, and has been the most amazing person in my life for years. Yet I still fear and dread what my mind has been trained to expect being the “inevitable end” to a good thing in my life.

Any ideas or advice for these feelings?