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BF (22M) broke up with me but used a fake cop out (25F)
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Now I know the advice is to simply move on. Which I will and have been working on. I've cried once to my friend but now there's anger after the way he ended things.

We've dated for about 3 almost 4 months and for the most part, it was fun and we really enjoyed each others company. For context, I'm a virgin and all of my sexual experiences has been a first with him (minus penetrative sex which I wasn't ready for and haven't done yet). He initiated most of our sexual life but I didn't mind and reciprocated. Both via text and in person, he was definitely hypersexual but we also had very caring moments also where we just enjoyed being around each other. Additionally, at one point early on I was worried that he was only interested in being sexual and not getting to know me as a person. I felt that things were too sexual for me and told him my concerns to which he said he would slow things down and go at my pace.

The main issue was that he would randomly ghost and come back with a bunch of sorry excuses. I thought it was just the one time so I left it (albeit I didn't regain full trust in him) but he did it a second time for way longer. Before this ghosting time, I had to be away for almost a month and gave him a chance to walk away if he couldn't wait. He said he wanted to and expressed how much he wanted to continue things. Following that month, I returned and expressed that I wanted to see him. I noticed he was much more distant but chalked it up to him being busy.

After him ghosting for 2 weeks, I messaged and said that we need to figure out what's going on or if its over between us. Guys, he came back to say that he is ending this as he thinks I'm only interested in his body and how he makes me feel. I was so taken aback because this couldn't have been further from the truth. When things got too much, I was the one who said we should slow down. And he initiated almost everything sexually. The most I've initiated was dirty talk but other than that I've been mostly reserved. I told him it was unfair that he said that considering he initiated all of this and he just doubled down and ended things. I can deal with the break up, it happens. But I cannot deal with this cop out where he completely fabricated this about me.

How do I move on and not react? I've chosen not to respond but it's taking a lot of restraint because I am so angry about how he's handled this.

TL:DR Bf 22M used a cop out excuse and fabricated that I only cared for his body when I think it was the other way around (25f)

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