I'm 32, out of shape, and short which hurts my dating potential in general. But even moreso what I think is holding me back is my overall lack of trust with women.

I'm someone who has been, manipulated used and hurt really bad. Every time I put myself out there it ends up being one of the 3 results. I've been used as a way to get back at someone's ex. I've been lead along as just some other guy to hang out with for a free meal and I've been manipulated into a relationship for a place to stay while being cheated on behind my back. So my guard is extra high.

It's gotten to the point where I think I'm just broken. I've blown off multiple dates because I get the jitters right before. Thought that my physical appearance would hold me back, thought that they have some sort of angle, or thought that I'm not worthy of anyone's love. In short I've become my own biggest critic and my own worst enemy when it comes to dating. And I don't know what to do about that.