I wanted to ask for some insight on this as it just happened today. I had been seeing this older guy for about two months, and things were pretty stable. He communicated well, we had a lot of things in common, we spent every other weekend together, yet today he called me and ended it. He expressed that he didn't want me to feel bad, but he "knows" how he is, and it's not a good sign that he is so "mellow and comfortable" around me. He wants to feel "excited" but does not see that happening with me as I give him "friend-vibes." I was honestly blindsided, I thought things were progressing well, but he felt otherwise.

For some odd reason, he prolonged the phone call to an hour and 30 minutes though he had already stated his thoughts in the first 5 minutes - which i pointed out. He was very adamant about staying in contact as he adores me and thinks I am a wonderful/sweet person - I declined, and he expressed his disappointment passionately. He kept insisting that I was welcomed over whenever and if I needed anything, he would be there for me - I decline that as well. By the end of the phone, he was obviously disappointed, but I don't understand why since he was the one who ended things.

I am starting to wonder if I am too boring or something since, I am good at being considerate, communicative, and empathic in my relationships, yet I keep getting in situations like this. I get ghosted, I get shelfed, or I get friend zoned. I thought it was my looks, but I've been told that I am not ugly. It's not my personality since they are amused when I interact with them and introduce them to my hobbies. The sex is frequent, and I am generous (if we reach that point), yet no one wants to commit to anything serious or just commit lol. I have a lot going for me, and I do put effort into everything I do, but this pattern is becoming very discouraging.

Anyone have any advice or insight to what might be going on?