I've been getting matches recently, after weeks of nothing. Most conversations seem to go really well, both of us are talking about our passions, interests and hobbies and I get ghosted. I've shown the messages to my best friend and she can't even make sense of it.

I'm a 34 male, I do have adhd and possibly on the autism spectrum. I try really hard to read social queues, body language, not dominate conversations, and so on. The few times I have asked about meeting up for coffee, I get the usual "I'm not ready for that" "I would like to talk longer" type of comments, after talking for a week or more.

Not sure what I'm doing wrong, or if I'm just a filler or time waster. I know I've been told in the past that I'm too nice, or that I'm too nice and they have too much going on like depression and don't want to put me through all that. Only to find out most of them found other relationships and ended being up toxic and abusive.