I don't know why or what I may or may not be doing wrong but I try to get lady's I meet online to meet me irl so they know I am no bs fake sob or whatever and so I know their ligit as well and just to have a inperson no matter where it goes and I don't ask right out the gate I wait to see if theirs a spark their and if they feel the same first

I let her have the choice I don't force nothing I try not to be pushy about it it is what it is I offer to buy dinner and cover gas If there really far away so on so forth just to be a Gentleman man and still nothing I am ither dropped or stood up and scammed I am starting to think being nice never works am I supposed to be a ass hole or just offer to meet then shut my mouth

Please if you got any advice I would appreciate it cause I am out of ideas and getting frustrated