Met on a dating app, spoke for about a week on the app and then got her number. Added on social media and just had our first date a few days ago dinner and after that we went back to her place and one thing led to another and had sex. Great chemistry and date overall, and I’m assuming that translated through the sex.

Having her on social I noticed this weekend that it appears that she was on a date. She told me originally her intention in dating is “looking for her person” and wants to be married and I realize that she’s entitled to do this. I can’t expect exclusivity off the first date. I also am not oblivious to think she isn’t dating others.

But I hate the idea of competing, or even her potentially dating other guys, and I feel some way for some reason about it. Slightly jealous maybe? Don’t like the idea of feeling like an option competing for the final roster spot. Also, If I had sex with her with only meeting her for a few hours, who is to say she isn’t doing that with someone she was dating before me? I’m too realistic, an over-thinker and sometimes comes off pessimistic but I can’t help it.

Should I bring it up on our next date and ask her how many guys she’s dating or just date others and not sweat it? I like her vibe and am attracted to her. It’s been on my mind all weekend. I just don’t also want to get invested too much. I also don’t want to come off jealous, insecure, needy because I don’t believe in simping for women either. Both of us are in our early 30’s.

Just need honest advice from both sexes on how to approach it or what you would do. Thanks!