About two years ago me and my male friend “ John” had decided to take our friendship to the next level romantically, even though we lived in different states. “John” and I had known each for about 10 years. In our romantic stage things were great, even though it was long distance. Things turned for the worse when I had came to visit him for a few days. The whole trip was emotional drama, our personality’s wasnt meshing. It got so bad to the point I left in the middle of the night to go to a hotel so we can have space from each other. On the last day he told me he needed time to himself, I understood and thought it would be maybe a few weeks until I heard from him again. When I got back home, he ignored me (I assumed it was because he needed space). This had me so depressed, my self-esteem took a hit, I went and got therapy along with a life coach. What I thought was a few weeks of space turned into alil over year. “John” reached out last year on IG (I didn’t give a response) and again recently but this time I did express what was on my mind. He wants us to reconnect and work out what happened. I’m just so confused because before things got intimate we were friends but I can’t risk getting hurt