My bf(21M) and I(18F) have been together for nearly a month after being close friends for several months. It’s worth mentioning that I’ve been in two relationships before, and I’m a sophomore in college so my age is not indicative of my maturity.

We confided in each other about nearly everything before the relationship even started, and both of us deal with major depression. We’re also both recovering from longtime porn habits which we are actively in recovery from.

Because of our faith we both have some pretty firm convictions about a relationship built not on physical affection alone but on emotional attraction and real love. However because of our history with porn we’re both pretty sexual people and our relationship is very physical.

Recently he expressed concern (which I share) that our relationship is too reliant on the physical, and he wanted to make an effort to stay away from sexual contact for a while in favor of planned intentional dates. He confessed to having major commitment issues in previous relationships, and would end relationships in the past when they became too difficult. I totally understand that and I agree to pulling back- but he cares so much about putting effort in and he cares so much about me and I don’t want to lose him.

I guess I’m asking is what I can do to make him feel more loved and secure? I truly love him so much.