So, we met on Tinder in May and hit it off immediately, like right away. We both initially bonded over our love of Final Fantasy 14, and various other topics, including shared political beliefs and nerdy interests. We waited to hang out until we both got vaccinated, which was fine by me, even though it took a bit for her to get hers. She lives 45 minutes away, so it's not even that far either.

Talking to her is weird somewhat,we literally talk (over text) all day every day, about whatever topic we're on, but no flirting from her. Like, I've gotten maybe 3 compliments from her in the almost 4 months we've talked. I flirt on and off,and sometimes get, as she puts it, "sappy," which she seems perfectly fine with and has said so,so I don't think I'm overstepping any boundaries there. She has a shyness about hanging out, explained to me as her being an introvert and used to not being around people during the whole COVID-19 pandemic, which I totally get.

We didn't even see each other until laaate in July, and just met up for lunch for two hours. Then it was three weeks before we hung again, this time a walk in the park and lunch at her office (her parents own the company she works for and she can go in on off hours to her office if she wants) while playing some Switch games. Then this Sunday, she drove to meet me and we had lunch, but only hung out for exactly an hour and a half. Getting her to go on a date is like pulling teeth; she likes when she does hang out with me, but it's tough to get her to agree in the first place to meet up. 

She says she likes me, and doesn't respond negatively to me flirting or being sweet in person, but again she doesn't reciprocate. She says she was raised in an emotionality distant household so she's kind of stunted emotionally,and I get that. But she also told me when I pointed out in text that we barely hung out this past Sunday (I had plans for a few hours, she dropped on me only when we met up that she had "things" she had to do soon after, cutting it to only lunch) that she again likes me, but she doesn't know me that well, and that's why she seems to be taking it slow.

Now I'm fine with taking it slow, but to me, if she wants to get to know me more and become more comfortable, seeing each other only close to once a month for less then 2 hours at a time will keep us from ever really moving anywhere. And we again have been talking in text form nonstop since we first "met," so I find it hard to think she feels she barely "knows" me.

Am I the asshole for thinking we'd get to know each other better if she had more frequent and longer dates? To clarify a few things: we are currently only seeing each other, to the point of us uninstalling our dating apps. I also don't want to rush to anything physical, that's not what I'm shooting for, I just want a bit more emotional openness and maybe cuddling at some point.