This is not a rant, but more an observation... than anything.

In my years, I've learned a lot. But apparently not enough.

For once upon a time... back in 1966 or so, a statement was made that in my latter years has resonated through me. "The more complex the mind, the greater need for the simplicity of play." Some will recognize who said it and where. But here, that doesn't matter. What does matter is what it says about us as human beings.

As children, we grow up with play. In grade school we'd get bummed out when outside play was rained out. Our interactions with our fellow classmates was the beginning of our learning to interact among ourselves. Friends came, friends left. Yet in the middle, there was play.

For some, play has been taken to extremes. An old bumper sticker once read "He who has the most toys at the end wins." I think that is wrong. I think "He who had the most fun, with whatever toys he had, wins."

This leads me to my observation.

When a man and woman first start dating, and get married and have their honeymoon phase, there is all sorts of play. It's like finding our perfect playmate, and not only is she a playmate, but a sexy one at that. And that the couple would "play" everywhere. Then kids would come along, and play would evolve from the less sex type of fun to the more anything other than that kind of fun. Some couples drifted apart. Divorce seemed to go on the rise. The Biblical teachings of being married for life, went out the window. Yes, those that made it to the "Death do you Part" part of the vows are quite special people.

It seems to me, that women have changed from how they grew up. They went from wearing dresses and being stay-at-home mothers, to now they will go hunting, fishing, 4-wheeling, just like the best of the guy's out there. And to give women credit, some were probably better at it than some of the men.

I've never married, so I've never had the honeymoon phase. I want a playmate. I want a dress wearing, lingerie wearing, intimacy loving woman. Play gives you that opportunity to learn about the other person. Thoughts, feelings, emotions, that you just don't get from dry dating interaction. I know. I've tried. Some women are as tight-lipped as an Aldeberon Shellmouth (plus points if you know where that came from). They bought the Lamborghini and found out it was a Pinto instead (and I'm not talking a horse), leaving them with lots of what I would call remorse.

I've mentioned to women I've chatted with, about wanting a playmate (and no, i'm not talking about the magazine kind, however that could be fun in itself). I have several hobbies that center around women. And I've sought someone who would be interested in helping me develop it out to it's ultimate end. I even found one who was interested, and we went out on a date. I told her no intimacy till at least the 2nd or 3rd date. She agreed. However, at the end of the date, she was upset with me that I didn't invite her over to play, so she ended it with me, very badly too. She seemed to be all for it, even at 53 years of age. Looking back now, I think that was why she wanted to go out in the first place. Not for a date, but for the sex of it (and unfortunately I knew she was turned on... it would have been obvious to anyone nearby).

But it's amazing to me, how our society seems to have de-programmed women from being women, into being guys with vaginas. If I wanted a guy friend, I'd find one to do guy stuff with (and no, I'm not gay nor bi). I want a woman for the things that the woman brings to the table.

In this day and age, a woman like that is more rare than gold-pressed latinum. Or maybe at 56 I've turned into Captain Dunsel.