Being a 19-year-old male in college, it seems to me as if I don’t have my opportunities in check. Ive only had a few relationships back in high school but one was toxic and the other one I felt bad of because I felt I wasn’t giving any form of seriousness. At that time, maybe I was confused and misguided for these things since I suffered from a bit of social anxiety. In college now, I’ve used a couple of dating apps since the beginning of 2020 (Tinder, Bumble & Hinge) and I will say that my shots I've taken have been horrible. Only one date with two girls and then we never see each other again. But November was the complete worst. I matched with two girls that month, Girl A, which we hung out once and never spoke to each other ever again, and Girl B, who used my time and willingness to do things for her and never gave back. But after matching with Girl B & having her text me to run around town twice to buy her stuff and pick her and her friend up at a weird place to drive them somewhere else*, I realized that I was going into things wrong. That I didn't actually know what I wanted. Whether it be a one-time stand or a future thing, I was going into this dating scene not knowing anything.

But that's different. I'm going into things wanting to make a commitment to someone’s daughter. To see someone in my future as a girlfriend/possible SO. But maybe I'm asking for too much as a college kid. I wanted advice about this. Am I doing something wrong? Am I asking for too much? How can I stop trying to focus on all this dating mesh and focus on myself? It's hard asking these questions to myself because I’m going in from my own perspective. I could use advice about this and I’m coming to this subreddit.

*A little context about Girl B, we talked for about 3 weeks. Out of the blue, she asks if I wanted to chill. What she didn’t tell me was that she actually needed someone to pick her & her friend up from some random place and have me drive them to a different place, 30 minutes away from my apartment. Honestly, it’s my fault because I didn’t go with my gut feeling and lie & say I was busy. I was hesitant about her texts that night, being that she gave me two different addresses of where she was.

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