Dating is tough

For both sexes, Obviously I can really only comment on the male side of the dinner table, but I am not death or blind, I am indeed, aware of the struggles of the modern woman trying to nab a man of her own by going on countless dates with a variety of candidates that prove to be unsuccessful for the role advertised. Mostly, I hear, due to miscommunication about the job description and employment type. I say "miscommunication" but in reality it's more a case of choosing to only interpret the information that best favors your ideals, the rest goes in one ear and out the other considered to be unacceptable.

I feel that the saying "read between the lines" is more relevant nowadays in a kind of oxymoron sort of sense where people are taking all what I said to them or in the case of many in today's age written to them via message, text or tinder, and only reading that, which best applies to them. . In a way reading between the lines, as much of pretenses they start to believe in we're not I even written or said, but. Just assumed by an individual so entirely consumed with himself and his needs and desires in a very dangerous and highly contagious disease called selfishness coupled with symptoms of egotism

As I was saying this is just one man's opinion on his own situation and from what I have herd and seen when out in public.

I have been on many dates in the last 12 months following a very soap box style split from my ex girlfriend I now know where these soapy tv show writers get their ideas from,, Dysfunctional relationships that are ending, which then is the basis for any drama show

The first few months was a typical self centered display by yours truly, "dating to get over the ex" or in other words, a rebound or 5 It was rather easy to pretend to be interested, to care, and then just as easily to switch of the phone when it was all done and dusted, note the conquest and move on to the next one. The problem with this approach is that it really is not a healthy option, and in the long term does very little to help your break up woes. But I can see this as something that happens all the time from both sides of the table.

Following the months of "faux ting" fake dating, where one goes out on a date announcing that the intention would be for something more serious then what one actually intends, which is a little bid of fun, or a fair bit of fun depending on how the first night goes.

The second stage of dating; Companionship due to loneliness

When in a long term relationship you get used to having someone around, at first it's nice, then it's annoying, then finally you get used to it and become rather reliant on that other half. I found that when you become single again, the one thing you miss more then anything in the world, is that company, that someone there to give you a hand and be there with you so that you are not alone. Having house mates is a great way to shadow this feeling of loneliness but it's not a suitable substitute in anyway. So you start dating to find company, even if it is not entirely suitable or you are truly into this person that you are seeing, you ignore the flaws, because they are there and for now it is good enough.

Case in point: I was dating this girl, let's call her Renee. Renee was a really sweet girl from the county, she was 19 and had only recently moved to Melbourne to experience the city lifestyle. She was an amazing cook, and I loved coming over to her place for dinner, have to admit that is an absolute must if you are to steal my heart, which I admit is a touch cliche but oh so true. She was also pretty good in bed, and no I am not going to go into any detail there. The problem was though, that she really was not the type of girl for me, she was just a bit to plain and simple and way to nice to be my type, yes I have a strange type and I am a bit weird. I also think after my last relationship I have become even pickier, or it could be that I am simply to scarred to start again, either or this girl was just not for me.

But she was a great cook, and nice company, so I kept seeing her for these reasons and the that above mentioned reason of company.

My kind of girl:

Well won't this be a loaded kind of article The thing is, there is a high chance that my kind of girl does not exist, because simply put, I am just that incredibly picky and particular about the kinds of qualities I wish to have in "the one"

Ladies before you scoff at this, everybody knows that all of you have a list if"must haves" and is it the kind list that you could run to the milk bar, no it is the kind of list that takes a sustained effort to prepare and must be executed with great skill at a large supermarket chain and will require all the space in your SUV to be able to transport back home.

Mark's ideal/ scratch that / perfect woman

Where do I begin, even. Career driven Few things are more attractive then a woman with a career, and a good one at that. This whole notion of "the man must be the bread winner" of "it's emasculating" is the biggest load of crap. People who preach this are very self centered and are discontent with their own situation in life, so due to a few insecurities they feel that they need to be in charge.

guess you would say I am rather picky with my girl friends