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I’m a 24 year old female. Born in South Africa but I’m from Indian heritage like 16th gen.
My family aren’t religious and I’m not either. I always use to only date brown or basically everything besides white guys.
I never thought white guys was an option for me to be honest until I was tipsy one night and a white guy kissed me and I actually really liked it so ever since then I opened myself up more
But I want to know if you are in this racial dynamic relationship how did you navigate feeling secure about the difference? Family acceptance etc
I feel insecure about it a bit , like I feel bad for being brown for them idk it’s so confusing I remember a I was saying bye to a date and he was white and kissed me like outside the restaurant?! My immediate thought was what is someone saw us but I never thought this with other guys
Hoping people who have advise on how to handle this above Sorry it I’m waffled
Yes you right I don’t, I’m in the UK, moved away a year ago for work so exploring what I want away from social norms back home
It is normal but then I find myself not being judgmental but just wondering is that couple suffers any issues with the difference
Hence why I came to Reddit to ask cause it’s obvi no light chit chat
It could be me growing up in South Africa and out history of apartheid. It was illegal to be seen with a different race romantically so probably why it makes me uncomfortable at times
Sorry you had to experience not being accepted but her family, glad they came around eventually
My family is open and I’ve dated all colours and they know about it so I hope my future partner doesn’t go through this
I’m scared of going through it on their side But that’s out of my control x
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Yeah and now that I think of it my date who kissed me in public didn’t feel uncomfortable because we just from different countries and social norms x
Thanks for the insight
Problems become temporary when you identify them so I feel alot better now x