Is he a narcissist or psychopath? I dont even know why the relationship lasted another few months after that, i guess because I had hope he would still buy me something or do something special for me. At first he said he was broke and would get me something next month, and the next month, not a peep, and then I think i ask again and its like when he has money.

But the problem is that he got me NOTHING at all. Not even in this interim before a real present. He was fine with buying himself all kinds of stuff, like $50 takeouts regularly, $15 donuts from some special store he wanted some uber delivery (not uber eats because it's unavailable for that store) to bring it to him which would cost another $20 bucks. So he literally showers himself with money, but not for a gift for me for a special occasion that only happens ONCE a year, no happy birthday or any effort at all.

And then to top it off, when we broke up, he still asked for sex "as friends", like wtf! I'm mad I didn't end it earlier. He's very cheap towards me, and I brought it up after we had broken up, and he had the galls to say "I buy you food all the time" and it was 3 times within the 7 months where he scammed ubereats by getting a refund by lodging a fake complaint. So he didn't even spend money at all. The only time he spent money on food for me was like the first date, and then one order where he couldn't scam the ubereats.

How soon do you end things with someone if you see red flags? maybe i get too attached to bfs. seems like i dont end it quite fast enough.