I hate talking about my past, and to be fair I hate when others ramble on about things that are over as well unless they want to do somthing about it or are trying to make a point. Unfortunately alot of people tend to value my past and like my past better than when I actually talk about myself or what I am doing/looking to do.

This is frustrating, but if it makes people actually start to open up, I don't mind rambling about my abusive past, and all the crazy things I overcame (although this will cause me to probably be more guarded as now I will belive they will want to use me as my past makes me look awesome and full of potential and I know nothing about the other person, and will feel they know nothing about me now)

But I want to figure out how to talk about my past, and not have it just seem like I am rambling, as well as how to transition it to them talking about their now and their future (as the past means nothing to me, nor do I care about others past, as it tells me nothing about them now without assuming or creating a fake version of them in my head)

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Any advice on how to do this?

Also feel free to ask any questions or share suggestions, as I want a serious relationship and nothing serious happens when we focus on the past and not the now/future.