General information: I’m 32, trans, attractive, and I’m in sales/can talk to people easily. I am 6’2 (does height scare guys?). I’m mainly into men, but some masculine women are okay too. I’m on dating apps and frequently I am out in public in a decent sized city. If it matters, outside of being goth and trans I’m pretty “traditional” when it comes to dating.

Dating overall has gotten a lot easier since I’ve been on hormones and becoming conventionally more attractive. It’s really only helped with upfront attraction though. More matches online (1000s) and more lingering looks in public. However, no one ever approaches me or invites me out. I don’t feel like I’m annoying or do anything specific to scare guys off. They just stop responding before getting anywhere…. I have lowered my standards some too.

With a couple guys I was more interested in I sent some unprompted spicy videos which resulted in a few more messages from one guy (stopped responding). Another one actually talked to me for a couple weeks, we communicated it would be a fwb situation, sex was good (for both of us), he kept communicating, and then randomly ghosted me. That fwb situation hurt a lot just cause he could’ve told me it wasn’t working and checked other boxes for me. I was actually treated like a woman by that guy etc which was sweet and I am not used to that. That is the only time in my life that I’ve “dated” a guy.

Guys: I know not all of you are not into trans girls. If you are, is there anything a girl can do that makes you want to approach her? What keeps you interested? Some guys are very into me, but embarrassed to be seen in public…. would love to hear from that group too

Girls: How do you get guys to stick around? At least the ones you want?

Trans girls: I see why most of yall that I know in real life are “t4t” lmao. How do you do this!?

Thanks for taking the time and sharing your wisdom!