Hey, I’m just a guy looking for some advice. I’m 30 years old, living in Canada. I’m 6ft, husky, tatted, and I own my own property. I’m about to start my Master’s to become a Nurse Practitioner. I’m debt-free, mortgage-free, and I own a care/nursing company. I also have investment cash/investment group aimed at opening medical aesthetics spas for when I completed my Master's. I don’t have kids yet, but I’ve been saving for years to buy a homestead where I can raise a family.

Despite all my efforts, I haven’t been able to find a motivated woman who shares the similar goals or values. The main reason I work so hard and push myself financially is to be a good provider for my future children. Honestly, if it weren’t for that, I’d be content living in a one-bedroom apartment with just a mattress in the living room.

Dating at this stage of my life feels almost impossible. Most people around me are already married or having kids. Sometimes, I regret focusing so much on my career because I really want the full human experience. I’ve always wanted to be a father, and I deeply value the idea of growing old surrounded by those who love and support you. In my work with end-of-life clients, I often see how cherished some husbands and fathers are by their families, and it makes me wonder if I’ll ever have that in my own life.

My past relationships haven’t worked out, partly because of my career. My ex refused to work or finish school when I completed my RN program, and when my last ex found out I was pursuing a Master’s, she flat out said she would never work again or go back to school.

I’ve posted about this in local city groups, and the advice I often get is to wait until after graduate school. The thing is, most RNs need 4,500 hours of work to apply to NP school, and from what I’ve heard, the cohorts are small, and most people in them are already married or have families.

I’m tired of dating apps, and I’ve never been into the hookup culture. I don’t drink or do drugs, which can make it harder to meet people, but I’m 11 years clean from addiction. Some of my hobbies include playing guitar and piano, cooking, foraging, hiking, and traveling.

I feel like I’m a well-rounded man with a lot to offer. I was raised with strong values by my mother and grandmother, so I steer clear of women who party or rely on their bodies as a primary source of affirmation, identity, or income.

I’m at the point where I’m honestly considering enlisting in the military just to find some direction and purpose.

Just to clarify, I’m not a “passport bro.” The idea of exploiting less fortunate women in third-world countries under the guise of “traditional values” is something I find gross.

By the way, I’ve recently lost 20 pounds and have 15 more to go. I used to play a lot of sports growing up, so it feels great to be back at it.

If you have any advice, I’d really appreciate it.