Hey there. I (M26) met this girl (F26) on Facebook dating a couple weeks ago, after I've been single for 4 years, and have dealt with manipulation in previous relationships, which have caused me to put my walls up. I've been struggling with what I should do about this girl, and where to go with it. We started talking and she was moving pretty fast (I don't have the chat logs as I've ended up deleted Facebook dating since talking to her), but I confronted her about moving things too fast and to slow down, and yet things continue to move fast. We went on a date last Thursday, went to dinner and had a good time, but she constantly over thinks everything, like during our time hanging out after dinner she ended up crying twice over thinking I was going to ghost her or something. We haven't had sex, we were touchy and flirty but that's it. She worries about me talking to other girls, worrying that I wasn't checking my phone due to people she's dated in the past cheating on her. She worries that I'm using her for sex, but also asked if I wanted to be her boyfriend. Now, I think that was way too quick, and I understand she doesn't want to be hurt and wants to "find her person", and I get she's been hurt and abused in the past, but man does she keep moving things too quickly and overthinking EVERYTHING. Whether it's medical stuff, stuff I do, or just things in her life, and constantly puts herself in a state of worry.

I enjoy talking to her, and she's easy to talk to, she likes watching me play games, and has some similar interests to me, but she keeps pushing things to go forward, and wanting to hang out with me all the time, which I don't mind, and enjoy hanging out with her too, but I feel it's a lot for only knowing someone for a couple weeks. I plan on seeing her tomorrow night after she gets off work and bringing up some worries I've had, but I don't know how to go about it, as I don't like hurting people I'm having a lot of inner turmoil about what I should do. As I'm writing this I'm on the phone with her and she's super worried she has herpes because of white discharge she's having (she googled it), even though she has none of the other symptoms, and has been tested not even a month ago that said she was negative for STDs, and she's asking me if I'll leave if it comes back positive, which I don't think she will be, at all. I could really use some advice on what to do, and I'm scared that if we have a relationship it will constantly be like this, even when I've told her numerous times to stop overthinking and worrying about stuff (I know that doesn't magically make people stop, but I haven't given her any reason to not trust me).