Question stands on it’s own but here’s some context:

Just came back early from a date which I hastily aborted because his house was a mess. Every room was filled with random clutter and crap on the floor - even though he had 3 (!) spare rooms. There was clear dust on his cabinets, cat toys everywhere, cat food scattered on the floor, his furniture was all scratched up, hairy and standing in random places, bookshelves were mixed with all kinds of unsorted crap, and it was overall really poorly decorated (tables in front of doors, a weird tv setup, etc).

He was noticeably proud of his living space, which he worked hard to clean before I came, but I was horrified. Apparently I have a different standard. When you’re 38, I expect you to keep your space somewhat calm and organised…. I can’t imagine my future with someone who doesn’t take care of their living space! I was already having doubts, but with this added I think it’s best not to pursue. I don’t think it’s right to make him feel bad about his living choices if they make him happy. That’s a me-/compatibility-problem.